Sunday

Tapping For Freedom From Emotional Eating And Drinking

For the past couple of weeks, there has been less and less balance in my experience because of addictive patterns: emotional eating and beer drinking.

I was trying to decide if I want to attend a high-school reunion by reviving memories of my previous meetings with my former classmates and imagining how I could position myself to make the experience enjoyable. Because those memories were painful and hard to bear. 

The heaviness started lifting a couple of days ago when I realized that I never actually wanted to attend those, it was just the Ego trying to milk it (to feel superior to my former classmates).

This morning, I saw what was happening much more clearly: I was reactivating my feelings from early childhood, when I felt, that nobody wanted to know and love me, just squish me into some image that they had of “me” (the same thing seemed to had happened on those class reunions), and that that was all I deserved because I was genuinely bad. 

This morning (the emotional eating and beer drinking was happening at night), I chose to restart using EFT to solve the issues on the basis of those patterns.

These 3 videos are helping me the most




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Monday

Free To Feel Unfree


Today, this post by Jeff Foster greeted me on a couple of social media:
"If you feel trapped, blocked, stuck, unfree in your being right now, remember: you are absolutely free to feel this way today.
Even the feeling of stuckness, limitation, constriction is effortlessly held, allowed, embraced in the natural Freedom that you are, the Presence that is always here. Nothing and no-one can take this Freedom away from you. Even a sense of limitation cannot destroy it.
You are absolutely free to feel whatever you feel in this moment. This permission is built-in; it doesn't come from any external source. Knowing this is the key to unshakeable peace and a contentment that doesn't depend on external circumstances "going your way".
Even your sense of limitation is infinite!"

Simple, brilliant, and healthy! Feel and be well, my friend!

Wednesday

Story Of A Recovery #2: Using Balconies


It’s a lovely day here in Liepaja/Latvia: partially sunny, not too hot, not too cold, and just enough fresh breeze for me.

I just had a nice brunch on one of my balconies.


I really love nature and its wonderful effects on my physical and mental health.

And I love to walk, could do it for hours, if my back and hips were not so fragile. But they are.

So, I can do only one rather brisk but short walk/training with our Rottweiler x German Shepherd daily.

The rest of my walking is done inside or on chores, or dancing ArgentineTango.

Afterwards my hips and spine need a couple of days and some cabbage leaves put on them to recover.

I could take a blanket and sit or even lay down in the wonderful protected field on the shore of Lake Liepaja in the close vicinity of my home.


But:

1. it would be too boring for me without internet connection and none of my arts and crafts supplies;

2. it would take time and preparation which might drain my restricted energy so much, that I wouldn't have any left to actually reach the field.

It would be really nice to sit in a garden to enjoy the nice weather. And I do that. Not only when weather is nice.

Only … most of my garden is located inside my apartment on the 8th floor of an apartment building.

But I have got two balconies:
one to the East


and one to the West.

So, I spend as much time on them as possible (or have at least one balcony door open day and night)

* enjoying the privacy, the fresh air, the beautiful views, and

* naturally and easily, integrating nature into my daily life.

That always works better for me than “special events” in “special places”.

How about you? How are you using what is easily accessible to you to take care of your body?

Monday

Story Of A Recovery #1: Light Sensitivity & Morning Imagination Exercise


About a month ago, I realized that, for some time already, my body had been showing symptoms of Fibromyalgia, Polyarthritis and Adrenal Fatigue again: muscle, nerve, and joint pain, headaches, fatigue, brain fog, irritability, insomnia, regular anxiety and panic attacks etc.

Mid April, after taking a freelance job and giving it up unfinished for the first time in my life, I realized that my body is suffering a lot, and I need to start listening to it more closely again.

So, I did that and started to adjust my daily life to help it heal.

Today is May 21, 2018, my body is feeling better and more balanced but by far not all symptoms are gone completely.

That means there is still some recovery period ahead of me.

Today, I decided to start posting about my experience and the lessons learned in the hope that those posts might help somebody else to find healing or at least some relief and empowerment.

Here it goes.

Today, I woke up at around 8 am. My room felt full of bright light.

It has a huge window to the East. And mornings have been very sunny lately. I am using 4 curtains to dim the sunlight, but, right now, that’s not enough for my body.

A couple of days ago, I started using a light scarf as an eye cover while sleeping. I thought of sewing a proper eye blind but the scarf works well enough.

Ear plugs are my friends for a long time already. I really love my neighborhood, but it’s a densely populated one. And, sometimes, one of my youngest kids just makes too much noise for my sensitive nerves not to wake the body up before time.

First thing, that I do every morning (when I don’t forget or have to help my body to deal with an anxiety attack the moment it wakes up), is imagining myself going to sleep after the new day is over, happy and satisfied with how it went, no details.

As soon, as I can feel the happiness and satisfaction in the body, I stand up, cautiously take off my eye cover and replace it with dark eye glasses to let my eyes adjust to the light.

This might be only a temporal light sensitivity, but, in my case, it might be something called the Irlen Syndrome, because I have experienced some of those symptoms for most of my life.

Watch this space for more posts about this recovery.

Wednesday

Excited About Narrowing Down My Focus

Attēlu rezultāti vaicājumam “when you are ready the teacher appears”

You most probably know this saying.

I experienced this again last week. :)

I don't remember how, but I landed in a webinar by Katharina Ferster and Christian Heinz.

It was just perfect for me, all interactive.

And the exercise we did during it, the result I got, and the excitement that I registered in my body about it was just amazing!

My fear of narrowing down my focus and message was just gone after months and even years of rebelling against that suggestion by so many other teachers!

So, from now on, I am focusing on helping people to understand and master mental health challenges, their own and of people around them.

It feels really good to narrow my scope down for the time being, which, for me, is a sign, that this is the right time and the right direction to move on.

I am closing pages and groups that were focusing on entrepreneurial and creative endeavors by the end of today on all platforms (another way of narrowing down my efforts).

One page and group on Facebook will stay on and have been renamed: Mental Health with Rita JC.

Another one will stay on as it is: Healing Art by Rita JC.

Please, follow me there, if it feels right for you. Or schedule a free private conversation to let me help you figure that out.

If these options don't excite you, just move into the direction that does and take my blessing with you

Saturday

How To Know When Your Creative Work Is Finished?

In a community I joined recently, somebody made this post in the Writers group:

"How do you know when you're "done" with editing and it's time to release your book (whatever writing form) out into the wilds?
I've been in the editing mode for... oh about two years now... but I'm beginning to suspect it's just an excuse to not actually publish because I'm terrified. I personally think it sucks and I am also super sensitive to negative criticism (and I know this is part of the realm too). I can be "done" by the end of the year (going through last edits for corrections) but I keep finding places where I could tweak this word, or that word... they aren't really corrections like spelling or grammar or punctuation or format. Again, maybe they are just delay tactics?
How do you decide when your work is "done"?"

And this was my answer:

"Yes, this most definitely is an issue for many, especially - the ones with less self-confidence. And, for decades, was part of my daily struggle as well.
I remember my DIL shared with me what one of her art professors taught her:
"An artwork (and a book or actually any text or creation can be included, right?) is never actually finished. At any moment, you can pick it up and change it a bit again."

The stories that we tell ourselves about wanting to create something if not perfect then at least decent/good enough, are just that: stories.

Our real struggle is with our identity, with who we believe we are, what we are capable of, and how much power over our feelings and identity we give away to "others".

But what if we are the ones creating all our future experiences (including the reactions of others to our creative work) by our (often unconscious) beliefs and expectations?

If that's the case (and it is) we can decide who we really want to be in the future (loving, serving creative people with appreciative following, f.i.) and live from that new identity.

Then, and only then, we are able to follow our intuition that knows for sure when to stop tweaking our work (and making it all about us) and releasing it into the loving hands and hearts of the ones praying for it to become part of their experience.

I discovered this only about half a year ago and am still learning, how not to spend too much time and energy in the old identity created by my old beliefs, but I'm getting there.

And life is much more enjoyable and easy not only for me, but for everybody around me already. So, I know from experience, it works and it can be learned as any other skill."

Any questions? Just ask! I would be more than happy to answer.
(Image: Artist Elizabeth Murray in her Manhattan studio)

Friday

The Key To Any Desired Change In Your Life

In my experience of almost 60 years, I have discovered, that there is one key to every conscious change in our lives: the conscious manifesting of the desired experience.

Until we master how to assume the inner state of being the person which is having the desired experience or already had it, any change and improvement is a struggle.

As long as I continue believing and feeling as the person who is trying to bring that change about, I cement that experience and perpetuate it.

It turns out, every experience comes from our (often unconscious) self-suggestions.

So, I go into a meditative state, connect to my true timeless and formless nature, get clear about my heart's desire, then imagine myself in the future.

What would I feel, think, and do, if my wish would have been fulfilled already?

As soon, as this state completely occupies my consciousness it is done.

The rest happens as if by itself: motivation is there, opportunities appear, resonating suggestions are heard etc. etc.

Do you have any questions? Or would just like to have a conversation about this? 

There are your options:

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Wednesday

Our Only True Desire



How do we actually know what our real desires are?

We want to feel good. Period.

No matter what else we think or believe that we want or don't want, by the end of the day, we just want to experience a pleasurable feeling in our body.

And it is an absolutely legitimate desire that every organism on this planet has consciously or unconsciously.

Even if we are not aware of this mostly we want something because we believe it will make us feel good.

Or we want some circumstance to change "for better". How do we know it will be better? We (often unconsciously) believe that the result of the changes we desire will make us feel good.

But where does this belief come from? Especially, if we never were in those new circumstances we desire to be in?

We imagine the ideal situation around it and get a glimpse of that good feeling in our gut we believe it would give us.

This is how our imagination, believed assumptions, and gut feeling are telling us what we want and what we don't.

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Tuesday

The Power Of Our Imagination

Right now, I am working on a translation of the book "The Power Of Awareness" by Neville Goddard.
In Chapter VII, there is this simple but very helpful story:
"One day, a costume designer described to me her difficulties in working with a prominent theatrical producer. She was convinced that he unjustly criticized and rejected her best work and that often he was deliberately rude and unfair to her.
Upon hearing her story, I explained that if she found the other rude and unfair, it was a sure sign that she, herself, was wanting and that it was not the producer, but herself that was in need of a new attitude.
I told her that the power of this law of assumption and its practical application could be discovered only through experience, and that only by assuming that the situation was already what she wanted it to be could she prove that she could bring about the change desired.
Her employer was merely bearing witness, telling her by his behavior what her concept of him was.
I suggested that it was quite probable that she was carrying on conversations with him in her mind which were filled with criticism and recriminations.
There was no doubt but that she was mentally arguing with the producer, for others only echo that which we whisper to them in secret.
I asked her if it was not true that she talked to him mentally, and, if so, what those conversations were like.
She confessed that every morning on her way to the theatre she told him just what she thought of him in a way she would never have dared address him in person. The intensity and force of her mental arguments with him automatically established his behavior towards her.
She began to realize that all of us carry on mental conversations, but, unfortunately, on most occasions, these conversations are argumentative... that we have only to observe the passerby on the street to prove this assertion... that so many people are mentally engrossed in conversation and few appear to be happy about it, but the very intensity of their feeling must lead them quickly to the unpleasant incident they themselves have mentally created and therefore must now encounter.
When she realized what she had been doing, she agreed to change her attitude and to live this law faithfully by assuming that her job was highly satisfactory and her relationship with the producer was a very happy one. To do this, she agreed that, before going to sleep at night, on her way to work, and at other intervals during the day, she would imagine that he had congratulated her on her fine designs and that she, in turn, had thanked him for his praise and kindness.
To her great delight, she soon discovered for herself that her own attitude was the cause of all that befell her.
The behavior of her employer miraculously reversed itself. His attitude, echoing as it had always done, that which she had assumed, now reflected her changed concept of him.
What she did was by the power of her imagination.
Her persistent assumption influenced his behavior and determined his attitude toward her.
With the passport of desire on the wings of a controlled imagination, she traveled into the future of her own predetermined experience.
Thus we see it is not facts, but that which we create in our imagination, which shapes our lives, for most of the conflicts of the day are due to the want of a little imagination to cast the beam out of our own eye."
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Thursday

Money Never Was A Big Deal



Money is not a big deal. Never was.

When it's there, good. When it's not there, no big deal.

We can always find ways to survive and even thrive.

Recently, I spent a week with 0 money in my bank account and 0 money in my purse, with no certainty that large sums are on the way.

My discoveries:

1. I am a really resourceful housekeeper and cook (All 5 of us (I, my 2 youngest kids, and 2 pets) got well fed every day even though I never make and keep big stash of food. There was even some of it still left before I went shopping after a week of abstinence.)

2. I didn't feel as desperate as I was always afraid I would.

3. 0 money made our life even simpler and easier, because I didn't need to do shopping and figure out what exactly to buy.

 4. The whole way I experience spending money changed after this one week completely. Now, I can truly enjoy it even though I hated it before.

5. I realized money has no value apart from the one we assign to it. So, yesterday, I stopped treating it as my god, measuring it, paying much more attention to it as it deserves which I have been doing at least for 4 decades. Feels so great, deliberating, and empowering!

There is one thing that had prepared me for this experience though.

Since the beginning of 2017, the old ways of dealing with business, future, and, yes, money, stopped working for me completely.

Pretty soon, it was crystal clear to me, that these are the last 3 pillars of fear and scarcity mindset that are ready to be exchange with Truth in my human experience.

It took me more than 1/2 a year on top of more than 4 decades of being on the quest for Truth already and I got lots of help, but I am an absolutely different expression of the Source now as I was at that moment of clarity.

Roger Hamilton says: "Wealth isn't how much money you have. Wealth is what you're left with if you lose all your money."

During that week, I discovered experientially that money is neither the problem nor the solution. What we believe about it is.

Now, each moment is filled with joy, appreciation, and overflowing love, to everything and everybody, which is not new for me.

But, now, it includes this human person you call Rita, business, future, and money as well.

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